If I had a penny, for every time, someone would remark that girls can’t be friends, I’d be a fucking rich woman. Fucking, filthy, rich and probably a very happy woman. But alas, the road to riches isn’t that easy! *Puts on a brave face*
Nevertheless, my friends, my girl friends, are what keep me sane, despite an ever diminishing bank account and an almost non-existent love life. They are the apple to my oranges, the lemon to my tequila and most importantly, the anchor that keeps me stable. Gee, I am already getting poetic talking about them!
Okay, all jokes aside, this stereotype *NEEDS* to change. I can’t be the only lucky one in the world. I can’t be the only one surrounded by these amazing, funny, kind, independent and extremely psychotic women. Yes, I used the word 'psychotic'; matters of loyalty can end up in bloodshed, if required or tested. *Shudders*
From my childhood friend to just my Instagram buddy, I am fortunate to be surrounded by women who genuinely give a damn about each others life. They have been there through the good, the bad and the ugly parts of my life. Be it a career crisis, boys being boys or a medical emergency, they stuck through. Even when I doubted myself, they believed in me.
I admire them as much as I love them and I guess, that is the fucking secret ingredient- R. E. S. P. E. C. T! Since, we live in a patriarchal society, the idea of respecting a fellow woman is almost an alien concept to us. Our social conditioning has been such that we look down on women for being inferior, in all walks of life. We judge them relentlessly. We envy them. We want them to fail because it sets a precedent for us to act by. I think somewhere or the other it starts translating in our friendship with our peers too. If we won’t treat each other as equals, how can we expect a man to do that?
Hold that thought!
Girl Code No. 1 : I shall respect a fellow woman or anyone who identifies as a woman. No judgements will be passed based on caste, creed, religion, number of ex boyfriends, number of current boyfriends, color of their bag and so on.
Luckily, winds of change are here. As Gloria Steinem said, “We are becoming the men we wanted to marry.” And, when women come together, they overthrow monarchies and governments. Think about that statement for a minute, call your girl friend the next.
A damsel might just be enough to rescue another damsel in distress tonight.